Resorting To Control

“Control is the way your ego ‘solves’ the problem of fear.  Whenever any of us falls into controlling behavior, one of the following scenarios is at work in the unconscious:

 

We are afraid someone will reject us.

We are afraid of failing.

We are afraid of being wrong.

We are afraid of being powerless.

We are afraid of being destroyed.

None of these fears makes you a bad person, or a weak one.  Everyone is faced with similar fears, yet only those people who cannot admit the threats hiding inside cope with them by resorting to control.”

The Path To Love, Deepak Chopra, p. 199.