Author: mysticheartsong

“The only beloved who can always be counted on is God.  The ultimate partner is a divine one, an experience of ourselves that is totally supportive and forgiving.  Until we know this, we keep seeking sustenance from men that they cannot give us.

Most men and women today are wounded.  The search for someone who isn’t in pain is unreasonable until we ourselves are healed of our own dysfunctions.  Until then, we will be led to people as wounded as we are in order that we might heal and be healed together.

What this means is that no partner can save us, deliver us, or give meaning to our lives.  The source of our salvation, deliverance, and meaning is within us.  It is the love we give as much as it is the love we get.  The passion we most need to feed is our relationship to God.  This is ultimately our relationship to ourselves.”

A Woman’s Worth, Marianne Williamson, p. 83-84.

“Don’t be dismayed at good-byes.  A farewell is necessary before you can meet again.

And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends.”

Illusions, The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah, Richard Bach, p. 174.

Forgiving does not mean forgetting.

It is very important that you never forget the sweetest and the bitterest moments in your life. You must always remember them. To forgive means you do not carry any bitterness in you, because it destroys your life.

How to act with someone who commits a crime against you or someone else? You must act as it is required. You may be shocked that I am saying this. But when situations go out of control, anyway you will do it. Suppose someone walks into your house and starts slaughtering your children and your family, will you take whatever you can get your hands on and hit him or not?

Action depends on the situation. Do not decide ahead of time what you will do. That would mean you are not giving the other human being the necessary chance. Someone may do one thing today, and we may handle it one way. Someone may do the same thing tomorrow, and we may handle it another way. Someone may do the same thing the day after, and we may handle it in a completely different way. It depends on the situation.

Forgiving means that you will not act out of resentment – you will act out of what is needed for the situation. It means you will do whatever is needed with no enmity in your heart – with no stake; nothing to gain, nothing to lose. Just doing what is required.

Forgiving does not mean that you will not do what is needed. That would mean you have forgotten what has happened to you. Forgetting means you have poor memory – that is not a virtue. You remember every bitter moment of your life, and still you do not carry bitterness in your heart – that is forgiving.

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“Under almost all circumstances, it would be plain stupid to walk into a situation where you are likely to be permanently damaged. But it might be very smart to open yourself up — within limits — to situations in which you would be likely to experience some emotional pain, such as in taking a risk to enter a relationship that has the potential to lead to commitment.

So it is necessary for our own emotional health and learning that we retain the capacity to choose to be open to being a vulnerable person.

Again it is necessary to distinguish between the path of smart selfishness and the path of stupid selfishness. Stupid selfishness, you will remember, is trying to avoid all emotional, existential suffering, whereas smart selfishness is distinguishing between suffering that is neurotic, unnecessary, and unproductive, and suffering that is inherent in life and productive of learning.”

The Road Less Traveled And Beyond, M. Scott Peck, M.D., p. 191.