“There is no past, present, and future. These only appear to those who exist within three-dimensional reality. Since I am no longer in it, I can perceive what you do not. There is also a part of you that is not imprisoned within physical reality, and that part of you knows that there is only an Eternal Now. The part of you who knows this is the whole self.” The Seth Material, Jane Roberts, p. 163.
“As I explained earlier, the lives (in reincarnation) or the plays are happening at once. Creativity and consciousness are never linear achievements. In each life you choose and create your own settings or environments; and, in this one, you chose your parents and whatever childhood incidents that came within your experience. You wrote the script.”
In all cases, the decisions have been made ahead of time, as I told you.
The reincarnating personality enters the new fetus according to its own inclinations, desires, and characteristics, with some built-in safeguards… The process is gradual, individual, and determined by experiences in other lives.
If there is a strong relationship between the parents and the child-to-be, then the personality may enter at the point of conception if he is extremely anxious to rejoin them. In these circumstances, when the personality attaches itself at conception, there is almost without exception strong past life connections between parents and child.
On occasion, long before conception takes place, the personality who will end up as the future child will visit that environment of both parents-to-be, drawn again. This is quite natural.
You may have already decided, for example now, upon the circumstances of your next incarnation. Although in your terms your new parents may be infants now, or in your scale of time not even born, the arrangements may still be made.”
Seth Speaks, Jane Roberts, p. 66, 220 – 223.