“People and circumstances trigger your anger, jealousy, and fear, but changing those experiences requires turning your attention toward what has been triggered (the painful experiences of your chains) and away from what triggered it (the shadows).
Looking inward when you become upset (feeling the sensations in your body) instead of looking outward (attempting to change people or circumstances) allows you to explore what has been activated inside you.
Until you change that, you will not change. You will continue to shout, weep, and withdraw as well as demand apologies, feel rejected, feel superior, feel inferior, and engage in all the destructive behaviors that you have perfected. Once you become familiar with your chains, you will know exactly what you need to change.”
Spiritual Partnership, Gary Zukav, p. 49-50.