“When you are in relationship with people, in a thousand and one ways you are provoked, challenged, seduced. Again and again, you come to know your pitfalls, your limitations, your anger, your lust, your possessiveness, your jealousy, your sadness, and your happiness. All moods come and go and you are constantly in a state of turmoil. But this is the only way to know who you are. 
Self-knowledge is not the knowledge of a dead self. Self-knowledge is the knowledge of the process of the self. It is an alive phenomenon. The self is not a thing, it is an event, it is a process.
Never think in terms of things, the self is not there inside you just like a thing waiting in your room…
Knowing the self is a process: changing, moving, arriving at new altitudes, moving into new planes, and going deeper into new depths.
Each moment much work is going on and the only way to encounter this self is to encounter it in relationship.”
