Category: Spiritual Writings
5 Rules for Being Kinder, According to a Civility Expert
Civility expert Lew Bayer suggests ways to put a little love in your heart.
Remember the Ripple Effect
Civility means stepping up and owning responsibility for the feelings of others. Our behavior has an impact beyond the person we’re interacting with. When we treat someone with kindness, she’s more likely to show kindness to the next person she encounters; the same goes for insensitivity.
Slow Down
It’s always good to wait a beat before reacting when challenged or upset, however tempting it may be to express exactly what we’re feeling in the moment. Yogic breathing, please. And when it comes to social media responses, it’s safest to wait at least ten minutes.
Work on Your Social IQ
There are three parts: social radar (an internal sense of what someone needs from you), social style (the energy you present—do you radiate openness and positivity?), and social knowledge (enabling respectful communication with those outside your immediate orbit).
Be a Continuous Learner
Read from many news sources. Listen to those whose perspectives differ from yours. Engage. Allow your point of view on issues to evolve with the changing times.
Assume the Best
Albert Einstein is thought to have said, “I think the most important question facing humanity is, Is the universe a friendly place?” It’s up to us to decide whether to believe in a friendly or a hostile world. When you trust in goodness, that’s what you’ll tend to find.
Lew Bayer is an author and the director of the National Civility Center. Oprah.com
Every Experience Holds a Blessing
The Simple Truth
“For we ascending ones, as we move away from linear thinking and move more into non-linear feeling, we may feel a bit lost. We may feel lost because we have let go of so much of the old and being in the New just doesn’t have the same “trappings” as in 3D (do you notice the word “trapping; is in trap?). If we each can be still and honor our own Integrity, we will feel more secure. I suggest we do not follow anyone and instead honor our own way. As we do, we will not go backward, but will move forward. Follow your own Guidance, even it it feels as though no-one understands. When we let go, it may feel as if no-one cares or understands and this is fine. Keep honoring your own path. Remind yourself that all is aligned in Divine Will. Your vision is no-one else’s but your own. Stand strong in your Integrity, regardless of what anyone says or does or does not say or do.
It is nice to belong to a group of “like-minded” ones, because then we can say, “See? I’m not crazy; I relate to what is being said here.” And yet if you look closer, you may realize you don’t really belong to a group of “like-minds;” you belong to a much larger family of those who may not be on Earth (like-hearted ones). You even could admonish yourself for not relating to a group or to anyone! Yet, this is perfect; you are perfectly right where you belong; in a group or not. One of the many illusions we are asked to let go of is that we must find our “tribe” or belong to a particular group. Let go of your need to be accepted, align with popular views or simply a need to belong to something. Free yourself to be more.
Let’s take a look at all you are asked to let go of…labels, man-made religions and holidays, linear thinking, time, following the crowd and and everything you use to describe yourself…and more! You are asked to let go of being a victim; that is, that everything happens to you. Rather, truly integrate the Truth that you create everything in your life; not as a punishment or a reward, but for the messages at the Heart of all events in your life. The deeper messages guide you; for they are of your Soul, the truest you. Soul has no illusions or attachments or needs; for all Soul truly desires is to be merged with you in Oneness, so that you express Soul mentally, physically and through feeling. All Soul wants is to have you completely and wholly aligned with It.
When you let go of everything that 3D has programmed you with and that you have accepted and created for your highest evolution, what do you have left? Nothing…no thing. You are free then to fully be Soul. Soul is Source. Soul is pure. Soul is detached from whatever you choose for yourself. Soul has no plan for you; plans are of the old and of separate ego. As Soul, you flow, you honor Soul’s Guidance, which only aligns you more with and as Soul and helps you be more and more Love; Source Love/Divine Love. It helps to simplify. You will find more and more things to let go of. For me, I have let go of so much and yet I know there is more to let go of. Each let-go clears a space within me that is then filled with evermore Love. Then there is another let-go and then another. Everything happens when you are ready, so it helps to be willing and flow with what is present for you in each Moment. Flowing is not resisting. Resistance causes pain and disruption. You can’t say, “I’ll do this, but I sure won’t do that!”
I cannot guide you, for your are your own guide; I cannot teach you, for you are your own teacher; I cannot whole/heal you, for you are your own wholer/healer. I can’t tell you how to be; I can only share what Soul shares with me. You must come to everything on your own and in your own time. You cannot compare yourself to anyone else, for each of us is on our own unique path of Awareness. You might want to know what, why, how, where and who; yet these are obsessive questions of separate ego. You need not seek to understand, for there is great Knowing within you. All one needs to do is to engage one’s Heart through meditation and then live that Truth. Be aware in each Moment, for you will not find the Truth by obsessively seeking more and more information. You need no more information. If you will invite Soul to you and listen, you will have all you ever need to evolve.
Being in a human body, we love being entertained, whether it’s watching T.V; reading others’ words or checking the latest astrological trends or any other thing that distracts. Can you let go of this obsession to be entertained? Can you integrate the information you do receive, so that you live it? Can you just be in the Moment? Can you observe without needing to know why or how or judge something? I know you can, but will you? Do you identify with being human? If so, do you not believe truly that you are pure Light? Who are you? Do you ever ask, “Who am I?” Do you receive an answer?
The simple Truth is that you are Love. There is no explanation beyond this. Our job then is to know this implicitly and explicitly with no “yes, but…” Can it be this simple? Yes!
Soulstice Rising – http://www.soulsticerising.com
Faith
Transmutation by Sanaya
“The ones who are in the most pain are the ones who bark the loudest. Pain has many causes and it manifests in many ways, not always with crying. It shows up as impatience, frustration, and of course anger. Be patient with yourself and others when they display pain in its many guises. Do not condone hurtful behavior, but in understanding its cause, perhaps you can help transmute it to love with your loving compassion.” www.suzannegiesemann.com
Fear
“Greetings. We are the Arcturian Council. We are pleased to connect with all of you.
You take many steps forward in your evolutionary journey every time you face something that you fear. You are taking these steps forward in spite of the fear response. The emotion of fear is not a bad thing by your definitions of what is good and what is bad.
It is, however, important to note here that what you do, and what you think, and what you say while feeling that fear, these things are important. And you certainly can make better choices. Some choices will be fueled by that fear. You will feel controlled by it, powerless over it, and yet there are other choices that exist that will take full advantage of the opportunity to expand and grow from the situation you are facing.
And that is what we want to encourage you to do. If you see fear as an opportunity for you to grow, to integrate, and to become more of who you are, then it is serving its purpose and it is serving you. What most people do, however, is run away. They run away from the feeling and that which causes the feeling, and you know this because you see it. You see it in front of you in the actions of others, and you see it in yourselves as well. You see how a person shrinks down, literally, in the face of what they fear.
When you stand tall and recognize that you are more powerful than that which you fear, that is when you have the growth experience that you want. That is when you take what life has handed to you and you use it. Everything, now, that you encounter can be seen as another opportunity to take a step forward, moving you closer and closer to the fifth dimension.
When the fear comes up within you, feel it, acknowledge it, acknowledge what it is that you are afraid of, and don’t back down. Demonstrate to yourselves that in your ability to face that which you fear, you automatically receive the full benefit of what you have created.
We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.” danielscranton.com
Osho on Giving
“Love is innocent when there is no motive in it. Love is innocent when it is nothing but a sharing of your energy. You have too much, so you share… you want to share.
And whosoever shares with you, you feel grateful to him or her, because you were like a cloud – too full of rainwater – and somebody helped you to unburden. Or you were like a flower, full of fragrance, and the wind came and unloaded you. Or you had a song to sing, and somebody listened attentively… so attentively that he allowed you space to sing it. So to whomsoever helps you to overflow in love, feel grateful.
Imbibe that spirit of sharing, let that become your very style of life: to be capable of giving without any idea of getting, to be capable of giving without any conditions attached to it, to be capable of giving just out of your abundance.”
Osho, The 99 Names of Nothingness, Talk #8
Forgiveness, Freedom and Creating
“Greetings. We are the Arcturian Council. We are pleased to connect with all of you.
It is the primary purpose of offering your forgiveness to free yourself from the burden of what you are carrying with you. It is not for the benefit of the other person, even though the other person will benefit from your forgiveness. It is the releasing of the resentment, the anger, and the victimhood that will serve you the most in offering your forgiveness.
Your forgiveness is not saying to another person that you are okay with that person doing or saying what they did or said again, but you are letting go of the need to relive it within yourself. Before you forgive someone, you often relive the experience as if thinking about it over and over again is going to change the outcome. It is not. It has a greater likelihood of reoccurring in your experience however, if you continue to give it your attention.
If you want to get obsessed with something, get obsessed with something that you want to occur in your life, not something that you wish had never occurred in the first place. Being the one who offers forgiveness is being proactive. It puts you back in the driver’s seat as the creator of your reality. It gives you an opportunity to express your feelings, and ultimately to clear away the trauma of the experience that you had.
Often you humans like to play the role of the victim because you understand that you are likely to get sympathy from those who can identify with that perspective. And every single one of you on planet Earth can identify with feeling as though you have been victimized. However, not every single one of you can relate to the idea of yourselves as the creator of your reality.
The world needs more creator beings. The world is going to benefit from your willingness to see whatever has occurred in your life as a co-creation, to see your part in it, and to forgive yourself as well as all other people involved in that creation so that you can step into the power of knowing yourself as the wonderful creator being that you truly are. Feel the freedom of forgiveness as it flows through you, and see what you can make room for when you let go of all of that baggage.
We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.” danielscranton.com
Suzanne Giesemann Channels Sanaya
“When another slings words that hurt you, they are doing so out of ignorance. “Oh no,” you say, “they knew exactly what they were saying.” Hear us well: Any time one human hurts another, they do so out of ignorance that they are also hurting themselves. How can one finger on the same hand hurt another … one leaf on the same tree hurt another? It would not happen if each realized the same Source unites them as one.
In your ignorance of this fact, humans say and do hurtful things. Remember this the next time you are the one who comes from that place of forgetting. We forgive you, for this is how you learn. Learning can be painful, and some people may never learn, but the soul knows and is ever patient with humans in the process of learning.” suzannegiesemann.com