Category: Spiritual Writings
How to Develop an Evolutionary Relationship
“It is critical to remember that this crisis we are facing is a crisis in which the sacred powers of love in the human soul are being diverted by distraction, by greed, by ignorance, by the pursuit of power, so that they never irrigate the world and transform it. What is needed is a vision of evolutionary relationship as a relationship that helps us come into the real, take responsibility for it, and enact our sacred purpose with a partner, and for the world: when two lovers come together in this dynamic love consciousness, they create a transformative field of sacred energy, from which both can feed to inspire their work in reality.
There are seven requirements necessary, I believe, for this tremendously potent vision of evolutionary love to emerge in the world.
Devotion to the Divine
The first requirement is that both beings need to be plunged individually into a deep and passionate devotion of the Beloved, by whatever name they know the Beloved, because without both beings centering their life in God, the relationship will never be able to escape the private circle. From the very beginning it must be centered in the Divine. It must be a relationship that is undertaken in the conscious presence of the Divine for the Divine’s great work in the Universe. Only a relationship that is centered in this higher power, and that has the Divine as the prime actor in the relationship, will be able to bear the vicissitudes of authentic love, of dealing with the challenges of life and service in the world.
The second requirement for an evolutionary love is that both beings must develop a mastery of solitude. In his Letters to a Young Poet, Rilke wrote, “Authentic love is where two solitudes border, protect, and salute each other. ”
They ‘border’ each other, they don’t infiltrate each other’s domain. They ‘protect’ because they realize that the solitude that each one has is the source of inner wealth and inner revelation; they ‘salute’ because they understand that the work of solitude, the work that goes into solitude, the heart work, the yearning, the longing, the deep contemplation of one’s gifts and one’s faults, is a sacred work that is the secret foundation of healthy relationship. In too many relationships in our current narcissistic model, what threatens the person most is the solitude of the other. In a true evolutionary relationship, what can exhilarate one person the most is the other’s solitude, because they know that solitude has the potential to make them a billionaire of generosity, of insight, and of creativity.
Equality of Power
The third requirement is that in a true evolutionary relationship there is an equality of power, and that equality is born out of a profound experience of the sacredness and dignity of the other person’s soul. This new relationship that is trying to be given to us by the Mother is what I call the beloved-beloved relationship. One person isn’t the beloved and the other only the lover. Both partners recognize in each other the unique face that the Divine is turning to them in order to bring them the essence of divine truth, which is embodied love. From that recognition of each other as the Beloved flows a natural movement of passionate honoring and service of the other’s life. This gives each person the freedom and the energy and the joy that they need to go out into the world and fulfill their destiny. This is crucial because in the past there has been a vision of inequality of power. Now what’s emerging is the mutual recognition of holiness and sacredness expressed in tantric rapture, in an adoration and worship of the other in the core of life.
A Sacred Enterprise
The fourth requirement follows on from the third: if you are going to have a beloved-beloved relationship, you have to center your whole being and work and evolution in God. You have to be a master of your own solitude so that you can work on what is necessary to deepen that sacred relationship of the Divine. You must also bring the sacred practice of prayer and meditation into the very core of your life, so that the whole relationship can be enfolded in a mutually shared sacred enterprise.
The fifth requirement is that both lovers completely abandon any Hollywood sentimentality about what relationships actually are. As love becomes more evolutionary and conscious, so does each lover’s understanding of each other’s shadow. One of the essential roles of this new love is to make each person in the relationship the safe-guarder of the other’s shadow—not the judge of the other’s shadow, not the denier of the other’s shadow, but someone who recognizes where the other has been wounded, and safeguards and protects them with unconditional compassion without allowing themselves to be mauled or manipulated by the other. This takes an immense effort, because it takes an immense effort to understand your own shadow, and an even greater effort to face and comprehend, without illusion, denial or repulsion, the shadow of the other.
Death and Rebirth
The sixth requirement is that if you are going to enter into the evolutionary process, you have to accept that it never ends, never stops unfolding. Evolution is fundamentally a death/rebirth cycle that repeats itself in higher and higher dimensions, and any authentic evolutionary relationship must have the courage to go through the deaths that engender the rebirths.
Marion Woodman, the great Jungian analyst and pioneer of the sacred feminine, said to me, “I have had four marriages with my husband, and at the end of each marriage there was a crisis that we had to make the commitment to go through, a projection that had to die. But we stuck at it and we went through it, and the love that we know now in our eighties is the greatest and deepest love we have experienced.”
The seventh principle requirement is that from the very beginning of this adventure into evolutionary love you must make the commitment for it not to be just a personal orgy, a cultivation of an oasis of private pleasure. You must engage consciously in this relationship to make you stronger, to serve the planet, to recognize that it is a relationship not only grounded in the Divine, not only infused by sacred practice, but it is from the very beginning dedicated to making both people more powerful, more reflective, more passionately engaged with the only serious truth of our time: The world is dying, and we need a major revolution of the heart to empower everyone to step forward and start doing the work of reconstruction and re-creation that is now desperately needed.”
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Being of Service Always Serves You ∞The Creators
“We do appreciate all that you do, and we offer you suggestions because we want you to have a more joyous life so that you can spread more joy. It is our desire for you that you give what it is you are strong in, what you consider yourself to be an expert in, to whomever is requesting your help and guidance, your support.
You are angels who have come to be of service to one another and it is the fastest way to living the life you have always dreamed of. We want you to know that this is for your highest good. You do not need to save or rescue anyone. You are your own saviors, and that is why we ask you to embody that role.
It is impossible for you to assist another without assisting yourself. You have this idea that the others are somehow separate from you and that if you give something to them then they must give something to you return, because you do not see the gift you give yourself by being of service. And you cannot see the ripple effect. Let us assure you that everything comes back to in some form, in some way. You will receive what it is you need when you give freely of what it is you have.
Take this offering as our gift to you, for it is our desire to be the best possible version of ourselves that we can be. And we know that this is your desire as well. We know who you are, and we give you exactly what you are ready for. This is the time. You are ready to awaken to your true Selves, your loving, giving, caring, infinite Selves.
Begin with a kind gesture. A wave or a smile, a hello or a thank you, and see how that feels. Then, you will feel inspired to do something else. Let yourself go with that notion, that idea, and see where it takes you. And before long, you will all be living and giving the best of who you are.”
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Are You In An Ego Based Or Soul Based Relationship?
“Direct the course of love. For love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.”
~ Gibran Kahlil Gibran
Ego Based | Soul Based |
Focused on what you are not getting.
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Focused on what you are receiving from your partner. |
Feeling desperate, lacking love or needy for love. | Feel completely loved no matter what your partner says or does. |
Seeking approval from your mate. | You approve of yourself and that is enough. |
Deep sense of insecurity. | Feel whole and secure because you love yourself. |
Jealous of your mate spending time with others. | Encourage your mate to spend time with others. |
Critical of yourself and your mate. | You are able to see the beauty and Divine in yourself and your partner. |
You are blaming your partner for something that happened in the past, or could happen in the future. | You are focused on the beauty of relating to your partner in the “now”. |
Long list of expectations that must be met for you to feel okay. | Clearly setting your desired outcomes in the relationship and letting go of any attachment to them occurring. |
and if love is not giving you freedom then it is not love.” ~Osho
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“Start telling a better-feeling story about the things that are important to you. Do not write your story like a factual documentary, weighing all the pros and cons of your experience, but instead tell the uplifting, fanciful, magical story of the wonder of your own life and watch what happens. It will feel like magic as your life begins to transform right before your eyes, but it is not by magic. It is by the power of the Laws of the Universe and your deliberate alignment with those Laws.”
Abraham-Hicks, Excerpted from Money and the Law of Attraction on 8/31/08