Category: Spiritual Writings

Golden Rule Part Two

“One of the greatest secrets that you are not taught in schools or in religions is that if you want others to treat you a certain way, then you must first treat yourselves the way that you want to be treated. You have so much more to give others when you first feel whole and complete in yourselves.

This is the Golden Rule, Part Two. Yes, you want to treat others the way you would love to be treated, but you also have to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.

The universe is  a gigantic mirror, and it always reveals to you what’s going on inside

of you, rather than what you want the world to think or see. Whatever you want others tothink and say about you, please think those thoughts and say those things to yourselves.

Tell the universe, and show the universe, what you want to see reflected back to you from your fellow humans.“

danielscranton.com, The Arcturian Council

A Good Way To Influence The World

“We can’t force others to change their behavior. We also can’t make the world be as we want it to be.

But the things we do, the way we act, and what we choose and don’t choose can make a huge difference in the lives of others and even inspire them to change their behavior. Let’s take a look at how you can impact those around you.

  • Make their day better

  • Inspire by example

  • Apply the golden rule

  • Be authentic

  • Talk honestly about what you want and expect

The only real way we have of influencing other people directly is by talking to them.  Communicating your expectations goes a long way to making sure they are fulfilled. Otherwise, you are likely to find yourself in a long cycle of frustration. When you are honest and open about what you hope to see in others and the change, you are always increasing the chances that said change will happen.

Sure, it’s often not as simple as telling someone to change or to do something in a particular way. You might need to think about how to motivate the person. It’s also not something you can always do with strangers. However, you might find that often a direct request, suggestion, or expectation can be a good way to influence the world.”

https://www.makemebetter.net

How To Be Happy

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.

It is the way we react to circumstances that determine our feelings. Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.

Remember, happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely upon what you think. So start each day by thinking of all the things you have to be thankful for.

Your future will depend very largely on the thoughts you think today. So think thoughts of hope and confidence and love and success.“

How To Win Friends and Influence People,  Dale Carnegie, p.67

Four Ways To Increase Relationship Health

1.  Pray together
Through this daily practice, you can construct a sacred space for seeking,
sacred guidance, expressing gratitude, and strengthening the spiritual connection that underpins your marriage.
2.  Differentiate skills
Decide which tasks are most important to keep your house running smoothly. Now based on skillsets and preferences, determine which spouse is best suited for which tasks. Trust that your spouse can handle his or her task.

3.  Practice forgiveness   Mistakes and miscommunication will happen. Tell the truth and then forgive.

4.  Retreat together
Seek adventures, big or small, that break up the routine.
Christianty Today, Betsy Barber

How To Surrender To The Relationship Process

“To surrender to the process found in a primary relationship, you do not give up individual choice and freedom.  You are not surrendering to your partner or to another person.  It means to surrender to the process of relationship that develops when two people commit to one another.

This process of relationship becomes the third party.  Incidentally, this surrender is not necessarily a commitment to either monogamy or non-monogamy.  Neither is it a guarantee that the relationship will remain forever intact.  It is simply the recognition that the process of the relationship is a third and separate entity that has a life of its own.

If you surrender to the process of primary relationship then you must learn to listen to your partner.  This does not mean that you must obey or agree with your partner,

just that you must truly listen and feel your partner’s reality.  If you cannot listen or you do not hear what your partner is trying to say, then you must find out why this is so.

Why can’t you hear what your partner is trying to tell you?  What stops this from happening?

You must continually give energy to the process of relationship and do whatever is necessary to move through the roadblocks that inevitably develop between partners.”

Partnering – A New Kind Of Relationship (How to Love Each Other Without Losing Yourselves), Hal Stone,Ph.D. & Sidra L. Stone, Ph.D.