“As Michael Singer points out in his excellent book, The Untethered Soul, “True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protection.”
When we learn to step back from our thoughts and feelings to the point of recognizing that we are not our thoughts and feelings, but rather the observer who is experiencing those thoughts and feelings, a magical “Aha!” moment of epiphany occurs.
Since learning to identify with the “observer” awareness can be the single biggest change any of us can make in our lives, we can make room in our daily schedule for a few minutes of meditation time. Take a look at your daily patterns, and see where you might be able to dedicate a few minutes on a regular basis purely to noting whatever you are thinking and whatever you are feeling—and simply observing that you are not those thoughts and feelings, but rather you are the one observing those thoughts and feelings. From such a vantage point, you can thus choose from a vast assortment of possible responses what kind of persona, character, words and actions you’ll adopt.”