“In a study in the Review of General Psychology, 2001, researchers find that perceived ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ events or emotions can actually be more beneficial to us because they not only are more motivating than perceived ‘good’ emotions but also, people that are able to overcome such things evolve quicker and are easily able to adapt to change and new circumstances.
Instead of looking at ourselves as a ‘victim’ of another’s behavior, we can instead take their judgment of us from the perspective that it has happened FOR us. It is trying to show us where we may still need work. For example, let’s say our goal is to become more patient. 
Instead of expecting that we just are going to magically become patient, we are instead given opportunities to practice being patient. So every traffic jam, every conversation with our co-worker that just never seems to get to the point, are gifts given to us to help us achieve our goal.
Finding the ‘lesson’ inside all our interactions can become something that we embrace completely because we soon find that every fight or argument we find ourselves in is actually a chance for us to drop another limited belief about life or ourselves.”
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