“Thinking is an awesome capability. Like any capability, it can be used either as a tool or as a weapon against ourselves and others. And just like with any other tool, we can tell whether we’re using it for or against ourselves by how it feels. When we think against ourselves or others, we get in trouble. When we don’t, we usually stay out of trouble.
Feelings exist to warn us away from using our thinking to create trouble in our lives and to guide us back to our natural, healthy ability to live our lives to the fullest.
So, please remember that your thoughts are not always telling you the truth. 
When we’re in low moods, feeling down, our thoughts are not to be trusted… our IQ drops. When our thoughts pass and we lighten up, our t
hinking is once again creative, and positive … our IQ goes up.
The only way you can feel badly about yourself and your life is if you think badly about them… it’s up to you, every single minute you’re alive.
It’s always up to you! This is the best, most liberating secret I ever learned, and I want you to know it too.”
The Secret – A Letter From A Single Mom to Her Kids, Mavis Karn, LSW, MA
