“First, make sure you get into a relationship for the right reasons. (I’m using the word ‘right’ here as a relative term. I mean ‘right’ relative to the larger purpose you hold in your life.)
As I have indicated before, most people still enter relationships for the ‘wrong’ reasons– to end loneliness, fill a gap, bring themselves love, or someone to love — and those are some of the better reasons. Others do so to salve their ego, end their depressions, improve their sex life, recover from a previous relationship, or, believe it or not, to relieve boredom.
None of these reasons will work, and unless something dramatic changes along the way, neither will the relationship.
If you both agree at a conscious level that the purpose of your relationship is to create an opportunity, not an obligation– an opportunity for growth, for full Self expression, for lifting your lives to their highest potential for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about you, and for ultimate reunion with God through the communion of your two souls — if you take that vow instead of the vows you’ve been taking — the relationship has begun on a very good beginning.”
Neale Donald Walsch, “Conversations With God,” p. 141.