“All of you women want your soulmates, eh? You want the perfect lover, someone who can see you fat and ugly and still love you, someone to take care of you, to be there, to provide for you, to give you freedom. Well, I have something to tell you. There is no man on this plane at this hour who has reached godhood or knighthood to be that brave, that noble, that powerful, and that unconditionally loving. They’re in the same boat that you are, because they’re looking for someone, just like you are — except you’re not filling their bill any more than they are filling yours.
You came here wanting me to send you Mr. Wonderful? I won’t do that. I want to show you Mrs. Wonderful.
Now, I love you, but you are still wanting someone outside of you to fill up something you don’t own inside. You are leaking! You have emotional holes, and you are leaking all over the place! The more bizarre you are the more leaky you are. That is a great truth. You are trying to snatch someone to fill up what you don’t have in here. That’s why your relationships don’t work out. You will never find what you are looking for because it doesn’t exist.
You know, the blush is going to come off the rose very quickly once you get a wrinkle or two, once you begin to sleep around for a while and wake up to reality. The fantasy will begin to diminish. Because you are looking for something to fill a vacuum of polarization. You will only grow old and show all of those age signs. You will be bent with age, and your fingers will not work properly. And no one will look at you then.
Now, men! What are you looking for? Are you looking for someone to balance out your madness, your brilliance? Are you looking for someone to take care of you? You are also looking for someone to fill the emotional holes that you are riddled with. As long as you have limited beliefs and limited minds, you’re going to grow old, you’re going to become impotent, you’re going to have gnarled fingers and hair streaked with gray — and you are going to die. And what have you done up till then? Chased an illusion.
To find your soulmate you must draw your soulmate to you like great magnets when you begin to love yourself and fill the holes that you leak from so badly. When you can look into a grand mirror and love what you see — because you know your beauty is unseen — then you have filled the holes. When you can walk through the marketplace and be unsexual, you have filled the holes. The more you plug them up and the more you are intimate with yourself, the closer you are to drawing this magnificent entity to you. 
And while you are loving yourself and becoming greater in your being, your soulmate is being uplifted. The knowledge is coming to your mate because the two of you are the same soul and you share the wisdom.
Through the process of self-love, you become a christ. And when the christ has arisen within you, it quivers within your soulmate. It is two in the process of coming back to the immaculate One.”
Ramptha Intensive: Soulmates, Z Knight, P. 40 -43.
