“Why do some try to change the behavior of another? At the surface level, it may seem to be a helpful intention. The doer may even believe this. At the sub-surface level, however, it may be a protective measure, designed to decrease the discomfort of the one trying to change the other’s behavior. ‘I do not want you to be that way not because it matters if you are that way, but because your behavior makes me uncomfortable.’
Do you see? The ego has a way of turning things around. When the urge arises to correct another’s behavior who is not a child in need of parental guidance, examine the deepest motive.
Turn the finger that is pointing back towards oneself in a loving way and gently ask the question, “Is there learning here for me as well?”
Be gentle on yourself and on others. You are brave souls in what can at times be a harsh environment, but never forget: You are so very loved.”