Words Have Power!

“Words are incredibly powerful things. They can cut you, heal you, inspire you, and ruin you. Learning the language of a strong, healthy relationship or marriage takes time and tenacity, but saying some words regularly can cause irreparable damage.  Below are four words that are destined to cause damage to your relationship.

1.  Never –

“Never” implies a sense of hopelessness and finality. When you use “never,” you’re telling your partner that they are no good, will never be any good and that there’s no hope for change.

It’s an all-or-nothing phrase that does not lend itself to listening, compromising and creating good will.

2.  You –

The word, “You” comes with an imaginary jabbing finger. It’s accusatory, and if the receiving person is already feeling vulnerable, defensive, or emotional, whatever you say after “you” will be interpreted as an accusation.

3. Always –

Like “Never,” “Always” is a word to avoid.  When you use “always,” you’re telling your partner that they are wrong, you are right.

It’s an all-or-nothing word, and it does not lend itself to understanding, learning, or healing.

4. But –

When you use “but,” you negate whatever was said before.  For instance, “I really appreciate that you did the dishes, BUT (fill in the blank.)

It invalidates your message and turns a positive statement into a negative one. It’s a conjunction that does not lend itself to building trust, credibility and intimacy. Similar words to avoid include “however” and “although.”

Take the time to think about the impact of your words before you speak to your partner.

Strive to create a powerful and loving intention with your words rather than one that is meant to hurt, control, scare or push away the person you love.”



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After thirty years of teaching Inner City, Special Education students and forty-five years of metaphysical studies, I have decided to share my life's philosophical understandings on this wonderful website. For me, everything in my life has been a spiritual experience from being raised in an alcoholic household, to marriage and teaching, and finally caring for an Alzheimer parent. I have sought at least fifteen, personal psychic readings to try and assist me as a wife, teacher and caretaker. I want to share the wisdom that I have gained from following the valuable spiritual guidance from my inner knowing and from heeding the advise of channeled answers from trusted psychics. At almost 70 years old, I am writing, traveling and enjoying retirement in Florida.

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