The Most Important Question

“Perhaps the most important question you can ask a potential love partner relates to their relationship with ‘the shadow’ – their own, and the shadow that emerges in the relationship itself.

That is, ‘How much work are you willing to do on yourself and the relationship when the rough going ‘hits the fan’? Are you willing to go as deep as we have to go to work it through, or are you only interested in a breezy, low-maintenance relationship?’

Few people ever talk about this during the romantic phase, because they are not envisioning the challenges to come, but it is an essential inquiry. I have known many people who were shocked to watch their ‘great love’ walk out the door when the connection required personal accountability and therapeutic work-through. Some of us will brave the journey; others will flee the fire. Some of us will do the work to transform our stories into the light at their source; others will run away with their ‘tales’ between their legs, only to find out later that their tales go with them everywhere they go.

If you can determine someone’s willingness at the beginning, you can save yourself a lot of trouble later.”

~an excerpt from ‘An Uncommon Bond’

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mysticheartsong

After thirty years of teaching Inner City, Special Education students and forty-five years of metaphysical studies, I have decided to share my life's philosophical understandings on this wonderful website. For me, everything in my life has been a spiritual experience from being raised in an alcoholic household, to marriage and teaching, and finally caring for an Alzheimer parent. I have sought at least fifteen, personal psychic readings to try and assist me as a wife, teacher and caretaker. I want to share the wisdom that I have gained from following the valuable spiritual guidance from my inner knowing and from heeding the advise of channeled answers from trusted psychics. At almost 70 years old, I am writing, traveling and enjoying retirement in Florida.

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