“Five different kinds of loneliness exist, and understanding that can help you meet your needs better:
Friendship loneliness: in this case you are missing just hanging out with friends or with your partner, grabbing a drink, spending time together and perhaps engaging in shared hobbies. You can but don’t necessarily need to have emotionally intimate conversations with them to scratch this itch.
Intimacy loneliness: in this case just casually hanging out with your partner or friends won’t satisfy you. Here you want to feel seen and appreciated and loved. Stereotypically in this situation women want an emotionally intimate conversation and then they feel satisfied. Whereas some men in this situation want sex and then they feel satisfied. Though obviously that isn’t true for all men and for all women. Still, keep in mind that it’s possible that your partner might want or need to solve this ‘intimacy loneliness’ in another way than you do, and that doesn’t make them broken.
Community loneliness: here you feel lonely because you’re not part of a solid, good community where people know each other and are willing to help each other out. Being part of such a community is actually a need that many people have. You can’t fully scratch this itch by having good intimacy with your partner and regularly hanging out with friends.
Self-connection loneliness: this is the desire to see, love and accept yourself. Here the solution isn’t to go talk to other people: it’s to look inside.
Existential loneliness: here you feel lonely because you don’t have a direction or purpose in your life, or because a loved one just died, or because you haven’t emotionally come to terms with the fact that one day you will die / transition. Yes, sometimes this too is felt as loneliness. What can help here is spirituality, philosophy or making art.
I hope this was helpful.
May all your needs be met.
It’s awful that just meeting your basic needs there on Earth is so tough, but energies are rising — while it might seem right now that everyone’s going insane, things really are moving slowly in the right direction. It’s just that everything that was repressed is now slowly coming to the light. Which isn’t pretty, but it is forward momentum.
With love,
Your star sister,
Tunia”
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