Dear Men – A Poem By Karen Star

“Dear men…

She knows you crave to make love
She understands it tops your to do list…
And she desires to make love too
And she desires to make love with you

But first a woman needs to FEEL
As if you love ALL of her being
From head to toe
Inside and out…
The best and the worst
Every expression that makes her unique

It is not enough that you told her yesterday
Or you are sure she felt it last week
Every new moment is a blank slate
Intimate connection is foreplay 24/7
And if she isn’t feeling it from you
Her heart cannot surrender into love

She wants to know
You desire all forms of intimacy…
Meaningful conversation
Emotional depth
Spiritual growth
Sexual exploration

Because each enhances
Expands and grows your connection

She needs to feel safe in your arms
Without judgement
Without criticism
Without control

She wants to travel in tandem
North, South, East and West
Growing together in every direction

And rising in love…
With you

She wants you to kiss her soul
Not just kiss her lips
She wants you to yearn for her essence
Not just yearn for her vagina
She wants you to hear her thoughts
Not just hear her groans
And she wants you to open her heart
Not just open her legs

And the only way she can feel this…
Is if you still want to connect with her
At those times she doesn’t feel like making love

When you still accept her
When you still honor her
When you still revere her
When you still love her

When you move in closer
Instead of moving away
When you stay present
Instead of showing dismay

When you still want to be with her
And just look into her eyes
Because that is enough
In any moment in time


There are many reasons why
She may not feel like making love…
But whatever those reasons are…

She is choosing to honor herself
And she needs to know
You honor her too

So please don’t close your heart to her
Open it wider to embrace her
Exactly as she is…
All of her

The beautiful irony is…
That when a woman feels this connection from you
When she knows without a doubt
That you love her for exactly who she is
On any given day
Sex or no sex…

When she feels you are there to give
Not just for what she can give you…

She feels so loved
And cherished
So seen
And heard…

That she wants nothing more…
Soon enough
Than to make sweet love with you …

A man she can respect
Honor and adore

Karen Star 

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After thirty years of teaching Inner City, Special Education students and forty-five years of metaphysical studies, I have decided to share my life's philosophical understandings on this wonderful website. For me, everything in my life has been a spiritual experience from being raised in an alcoholic household, to marriage and teaching, and finally caring for an Alzheimer parent. I have sought at least fifteen, personal psychic readings to try and assist me as a wife, teacher and caretaker. I want to share the wisdom that I have gained from following the valuable spiritual guidance from my inner knowing and from heeding the advise of channeled answers from trusted psychics. At almost 70 years old, I am writing, traveling and enjoying retirement in Florida.

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