Controlling vs. Allowing

d6161b9f1ffe5ee9e0b5187a080a0379“These two words, control and allowing are synonyms for attachment and non-attachment.   If you allow, you let others go in love; if you control, you attach them instead to your own way of doing things, your own beliefs and expectations.

When one person is trying to control another in a relationship, he usually doesn’t admit what is going on.  Instead, his motivations are made to look like love.  Isn’t it loving to protect your partner, look out for her interests, oversee her wants and desires?  For many people this passes as genuine love.  But controlling people deeply fear abandonment.  They are afraid someone will reject them and they will be powerless.”  “The Path to Love,” P.198, Deepak Chopra

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After thirty years of teaching Inner City, Special Education students and forty-five years of metaphysical studies, I have decided to share my life's philosophical understandings on this wonderful website. For me, everything in my life has been a spiritual experience from being raised in an alcoholic household, to marriage and teaching, and finally caring for an Alzheimer parent. I have sought at least fifteen, personal psychic readings to try and assist me as a wife, teacher and caretaker. I want to share the wisdom that I have gained from following the valuable spiritual guidance from my inner knowing and from heeding the advise of channeled answers from trusted psychics. At almost 70 years old, I am writing, traveling and enjoying retirement in Florida.

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