1. “Committment– Making my spiritual growth in creating authentic power my highest priority. Focus on what I can learn about myself all the time, especially from my reactions (such as anger, fear, jealousy, resentment, and impatience), instead of judging or blaming others or myself.
2. Courage– Stretching myself beyond the limited perspectives of the frightened parts of my personality. Take responsibility for my feelings, experiences, and actions (no blaming).
Practice integrity at all times (often requires action, such as 
speaking when frightened parts of my personality don’t want to speak and not speaking when they feel compelled to speak). Say or do what is most difficult (sharing what I notice, if appropriate, when someone speaks or acts from a frightened part of his or her personality; sharing about myself what I am frightened to say and know that I need to say).
NOW MOVING FROM THE ‘OLD COURAGE’ — THE COURAGE TO MANIPULATE AND CONTROL CIRCUMSTANCES AND PEOPLE IN ORDER TO FEEL SECURE AND VALUABLE — TO SOULFUL COMPASSION.
3. Compassion– Seeing myself and others as souls who sometimes have frightened parts of their personalities active. Change my perspective from fearful to loving (choose to see myself and others in a loving or appreciative way). Release any distance I feel from anyone. Be present while others are speaking (not preparing replies, judging, etc.).
4. Conscious communication and actions– Striving to make all my interactions conscious and loving. Consult my intuition. Choose my intention before I speak or act. (Ask yourself, ‘What is my motivation?’) Act from the healthiest part of my personality that I can access (rather than caretaking, fixing, teaching, judging, blaming, gossiping, etc.). Speak personally and specifically rather than generally and abstractly (use ‘I’ statements rather than ‘we’ or ‘you’ statements).
Release attachment to the outcome (trust the Universe). If I find myself attached, begin again with Commitment, Courage, and Compassion.”
Spiritual Partnership – The Journey to Authentic Power by Gary Zukav, p. 135 – 195.
