Recovering from Soul Loss
For many people the thought of receiving assistance for soul loss sounds odd or foreign. Yet, long ago it was a common practice to see a shaman for healing whenever you had a loss of any sort. This could be a loss of a person, object, relationship, peace or health. The shaman would look at you, contact the spirits for you and see if there was a soul loss and then return the piece to you, ensuing that you are whole. When a person is whole all of their soul parts have been returned and they are able to handle life in a much better, balanced way. They will also stop recreating patterns in their life that show time and time again that something is missing.
For me, a soul retrieval was a very important part of the healing I needed to step into my power. I had to have returned to me the parts that left due to childhood trauma, car accidents and the many surgeries and illnesses I endured. I can see now how my missing parts lead me to feel so very empty. I tried to fill this hole by rescuing animals and giving to others to the point of damaging self. I suffered from many illnesses, depression, and self-worth issues, these were created by soul loss early on in my life but it also created further soul loss as I kept re-victimizing myself. So many of us are walking around with parts of our soul missing desperately trying to be whole. As we move through this Ascension process, we must be whole, we must be fully integrated. A Soul Retrieval can greatly assist with this.
The parts being returned to me was the first step, the second step was to make sure that I welcomed the parts and honored them and what they brought to the table. This helped me to really get in touch with my joy and passion, which is our most authentic self.
Here is a checklist of Symptoms of Soul Loss:
- Do you ever have a difficult time staying “present” in your body? Do you sometimes feel as if you’re outside your body observing it as you would a movie?
- Do you ever feel numb, apathetic or deadened?
- Do you suffer from chronic depression?
- Do you have problems with your immune system and have trouble resisting illness?
- Were you chronically ill as a child?
- Do you have gaps in your memory of your life after age five? Do you sense that you may have blacked out significant traumas in your life?
- Do you struggle with addictions to, for example, alcohol, drugs, food, sex, or gambling?
- Do you find yourself looking to external things to fill up an internal void or emptiness?
- Have you had difficulty moving on with your life after a divorce or the death of a loved one?
- Do you find yourself saying “Everything changed after..” or “I haven’t been the same since…”
Taken from “Soul Retrieval, Mending the Fragmented Self” by Sandra Ingerman.
How to Obtain a Soul Retrieval:
The soul retrieval can be done via skype, google hangouts (worldwide) or the phone (in the US and Canada only).
The first session is 90 minutes where we discuss why you think you have soul loss and the best way to welcome your soul parts home. I will then perform the actual soul retrieval with you on the phone or via skype, zoom or google hangouts.
The second part is an hour long session where we discuss how your integration of the soul parts is affecting you. This is scheduled between 4 weeks and 4 months after your soul parts are returned as it is at least 2 weeks for integration to begin and often a couple of months for the pieces to fully anchor in. If anytime during the integration time, you need assistance, I am available via email and on the rare occasion, we can schedule a brief session. Please read below to get a better understanding.
Soul Retrieval Frequently Asked Questions: Why did my soul piece leave?
Soul pieces leave for many reasons. The most common is trauma or a serious shock to your system. These can be abuse situations, car accidents, surgeries, divorce, or death of a loved one. Often people will say things like “I haven’t been the same since…” “A part of me died that day.” Or “I just feel something is missing.” These are clues that the person suffered a significant blow and that a part of their soul has fragmented.
However, trauma is not the only reason for a piece of your soul to leave. I have returned pieces that left to preserve the integrity of the soul. For instance, I returned a 16 year old piece to someone recently that had left because it didn’t want to stick around while the human went into criticizing and beating up the self.
Other times a piece will leave because it does not want a moment to end. During a soul retrieval I found a 10 year old piece of someone that decided to stay in the woods and play. Summer was ending and school was beginning. This piece didn’t want to have to come inside and he certainly didn’t want to be still at school, so a piece stayed in the woods.
Why is it so important to have all of our soul pieces back?
When we are not whole we tend to recreate the same patterns over and over again that show us what needs to heal. For example, someone may find themselves in a string of relationships where they feel left and abandoned. This theme could play out over and over again to show that the original wound, maybe the abandonment of a parent needs to be healed. Our patterns are clues to show us where we have a deep wound that could include soul loss. When we have soul loss, no amount of healing or therapy will resolve the core issue until that piece is brought to be healed and integrated.
When we have soul loss, we feel a deep hole within in and we attempt to fill it. We try to fill it with so many things like relationships, food, drugs, sex, gambling, even giving too much of self. This deep longing and need can also mean that we take someone else’s soul piece without even being aware.
How do soul pieces get taken?
Soul loss through pieces being taken is unfortunately all too common in our society. Most of the time it is not taken through malicious intent rather another soul’s desperate attempt to be whole. When I was training to become a shaman I learned that I had “stolen” two soul pieces, both from my children. The first piece was from one of my daughter’s when she was 2. Her connection to source was so pure and mine was not at the time. So I unintentionally took a piece. The other was from my other daughter when she was 14. I had been in a serious accident and the resulting surgery left me using a walker and with chronic pain. My daughter was a dynamo on the lacrosse field, she would run like a gazelle with such agility and speed. I would watch her and pretend I too was on that field and not in my battered body. I would tell people that I “lived vicariously through her” and indeed I did as I stole a piece from her. When I realized that I had taken from my children I was horrified, but then I realized that to beat myself up over something I had no knowledge of doing is silly and counterproductive. When we know better, we do better.
Take note of anyone that pops into your head that may have stolen your piece or whose piece you may have taken. Bring this up during your session and I can teach you a simple ceremony to release pieces that do not belong to you.
Are some pieces taken on purpose?
Yes, even if the person is not consciously aware that this is what actually has taken place. I have seen where an ex may hold a piece because they refuse to let go of what was. I have also seen where an abusive mate or care giver have taken soul pieces for control. The returning of these pieces can be tricky and I am grateful for my sizeable team of Retrieval guides and power animals. During a soul retrieval, I had the experience where many pieces of my client were being held by an abusive ex-husband in what looked like a jail cell. As I went to retrieve the pieces, my power animal came to the rescue by stopping the person from attempting to lock me in the cell as well. If that had happened, I would have found myself on another shaman’s doorstep for healing as I would have suffered severe soul loss.
Can someone perform their own soul retrieval?
It is not recommend, even for those trained. As I detailed above, the work can be dangerous and you need to have a solid relationship with your guides and power animals. A surgeon doesn’t perform surgery on his/her self, it is just not wise. I also won’t perform one on people I am extremely close with, like my children. No matter how objective I could try to be, I still have preconceived notions of what I will find. If I attempted to do one on myself, I may zero in on the instances I remember and totally not see the pieces and circumstances that are so deep they caused memory loss. As a healer, I go to another healer to ensure that I am able to see the forest for the trees.
What a person can do is “Prepare the field” for the pieces to return. They can begin to look at their patterns and where it possibly began. They can also set the intention for full integration. These do wonders.
Do all pieces returned stay?
Most of the time the pieces stay and integrate nicely. However, there can be times that a piece will choose not to stay. For example, if I return a 3 year old piece that left due to abuse into the now adult who is still living in a chaotic, abusive relationship (though the players may have changed, i.e. mother to spouse), the piece won’t stay and nor should it.
It is our job to make sure that we understand why the pieces left and do our best to ensure that the same patterns are not reoccurring. This is why the follow up appointment is so important to help make sure that the pieces stay and understanding is given.
How long does it take for a soul piece to fully return?
Some will feel a difference immediately while most find it takes at least 2 weeks but as much as 4 months for the pieces to integrate.
Will I need more than one soul retrieval?
This depends on each person and the circumstances of their life. I needed two to bring all my parts home. If you feel after integrating all that was initially returned that you need another it is recommend that you wait at least 6 months in between sessions.
What can I expect to feel after a soul retrieval?
What to expect varies for each individual. Some will feel almost immediate wholeness and strength, while others may find themselves processing deeply for a while. Emotions and memories from the time the piece left may rise to be acknowledged and understood. This is simply part of the healing.
One of my soul parts was from when I was 16 and experienced a very painful break up. When the piece returned, I found myself feeling insecure in my marriage to the point I even asked my husband if he was planning to leave me. His confused look and the question “where is this coming from?” helped me to see that it wasn’t me in this now feeling these emotions, but the piece that returned. I then had to reassure her that we were ok, the relationship was secure and that if anything did happen to the marriage we (the 16 year old and I) were strong enough to handle it now.
