“One of the ways to practice deep shadow work is to first be aware of the ‘story’ you are telling yourself. (whether it’s true or not).
For example, ‘My father liked my sister better than me.’ One time he…. (fill in the blank). You can use the same formula for Mom, siblings, spouses, friends, etc.
FEEL the feelings this thought brings up in you. Where in your body do you feel it?
Now…give some breath to that feeling and release the pain with your breath.
Next…here’s an exercise that is so helpful in reframing a story that you’ve told for years.
I’m sorry, I don’t know what book this is from..(perhaps someone knows). However, I find it to be a truly effective way to reframe and introduce another perspective.
*Someone just wrote and said it’s from Medicine Woman Guidebook by Carol Bridges*.
I also recommend an amazing movie titled, ‘My Life’ with Michael Keaton and Nicole Kidman…it truly gives a whole new perspective on what we believe as children and shows the other side of things…
We are NOT responsible for what happened to us and how we felt as children…and yet we ARE RESPONSIBLE to heal it within us and get out of the story to Parent ourselves now.I will be offering more tips on Shadow work, Compassion, and Forgiveness in the coming months…
In good emotional health,
Faith Spina”
