“Codependency involves an unhealthy relationship in which one or more parties is emotionally and behaviorally entangled with another, often centered around a self-destructive behavior. ‘Often someone who is acting out in codependency will place the well-being and desires of another person before their own, even though it is often to their detriment,’ says Hope Peer, Therapist and Substance Use Disorder Team Leader at Centerstone. ‘Codependency can happen as a result of low self-esteem, a constant need to feel validated or approved of, fear of abandonment, and unsafe attachments,’ she adds.”
“However, if you give yourself the love you crave, you’ll break the pattern of codependency that keeps you disconnected from your abundant, loving nature and create more nurturing relationships as a result. It all starts and ends with you because your reality is an extension of yourself: you simply cannot experience love in the world if you don’t love yourself.
The belief that love must come from others blocks your self-love. Love is who you are. It’s your true nature, not the romanticized fleeting passion we’re fed in movies, nor the impulsive need to mother or fulfill other people’s needs. Self-love is naturally expansive and translates as others loving and supporting you.
The more self-aware you are, the more love you give yourself; and the more self-love you allow, the more loving your interactions with others and the more meaningful your energy footprint is on this Earth. Similarly, the more wounded your sense of self, the less love flows to you and from you. You tend to fall in love with your own idealized projections in an attempt to heal and connect with yourself.
Love aligns you to the Oneness of Infinite Consciousness. If love expands from within, it heals your wounds and sense of separation. It also leads to relationships in loving, creative cooperation rather than emotional codependency.”
centerstone.org, The Indigo Journals – Spiritual Healing For Indigo Adults & Other Feminine Souls, Yol Swan, pgs. 234 – 235.